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Marilyn, a 57-year-old single colleague of mine, recently reconnected with someone she had worked with many years ago. "No," Marilyn said with a laugh, "it's better than that: I'm in like with him — and that's exactly where I want to be." She further confided that they planned to make their reunions "a regular thing — if four times a year can be called 'regular.' But I think that's about all I really want." Marilyn's casual approach to maintaining a friendship with benefits typifies the mindset of older folks who have reconciled themselves to having "great fun" even if it's "just one of those things." And episodic pleasure-seeking may be more common than you think: In The Normal Bar, a book I wrote last year with Chrisanna Northrup and James Witte, we reported that 61 percent of female survey respondents who had partners fantasized about someone they had met.
A few weeks later, she joined him for "a wonderful weekend" in his home state. (For men, the figure was 90 percent.) And should they be propositioned by someone they found attractive, 48 percent of the women (and 69 percent of the men) said they would be tempted to have sex outside the relationship.
Many say they're getting exactly what they want and need.
Is that a deplorably manipulative state of affairs?
" At first, her disclosure strikes you as too much information.
More from politeness than passion (I felt only lukewarm about her) I returned the kiss. "But that doesn't automatically mean I want to be sexual with you." She put her sweater back on, then waxed nostalgic about her last relationship — with a much younger guy, she claimed, who had made love to her six times a night.
Then she sat up and pulled her sweater over her head. Seeing it, she dropped the S-bomb: "You mean you're not still sexual? "Thanks for sharing that," I told her on my way out the door.
The same study revealed 11 percent of survey respondents were in a sexual relationship that did not involve cohabitation.
Can a casual sexual relationship exact an emotional toll?
Indeed, many surrendered to that lure in actuality: 36 percent of female respondents (but, surprisingly, just 21 percent of the men) had spent a night with an old flame, typically at a class reunion.