My friend is dating my ex boyfriend
the thing is I think i never stoped loving him because until now I can't stop thinking about him and its been exactky 8 months that were not togethr anymore. He also tells me that he can't lose me that he still cares too much about me and that he needs me in his life but i jsut don't understand why he would say all of this if he is with her normally he should be happy because he chose to be with her against everything.
I imagine you once thought that you would never choose a guy over a friendship.
You are sacrificing a long-lasting friendship for an uncertain future. Best of luck, Erika Erika Myers, MS, MEd, LPC, NCC, is a licensed psychotherapist and former educator specializing in working with families in transition (often due to separation or divorce) as well as individuals seeking support with relationship issues, parenting, depression, anxiety, grief/loss/bereavement, and managing major life changes.
Although her theoretical orientation is eclectic, she most frequently uses a person-centered, strengths-based approach and cognitive behavioral therapy in her practice.
Let her know you are sorry she is hurting, and allow her to react however she chooses to. I think you show wisdom in recognizing how you would feel were the situation reversed. Your friend may have a hard time being around you or seeing the two of you together. Mutual friends may weigh in on both sides of the issue.
There will be no shortage of people with opinions and judgment.
She will very likely be devastated and feel betrayed by her best friend and by the man she thought she had a lasting future with.