Dating again after the loss of a spouse
About a year after Mort’s death, Mary felt ready to start taking baby steps to move on and meet new people.“Mort had been a hunter and had promised to teach me how to shoot,“ she says, “but we never got around to it.” When a shooting range, started by two former SEALS, opened near her home, Mary decided to learn what she had missed with husband.Even when expected, the death of a partner is a shocking heartbreak.Weathering the waves of sadness — and building a new life without your mate — may pose the biggest challenge you’ve ever faced. Your partner would want you to be happy again, so banish the notion that you are somehow “betraying” him or her by seeing someone new.
And whatever exercise you once enjoyed, try to make it part of your daily routine. Countless widows and widowers have met men and women of quality and intelligence online.
In particular, avoid over-reminiscing about your old life; it may make your new acquaintance feel excluded. You may long to clone your lost love, but it’s unlikely you’ll ever meet an exact replica of the one you were with. After all, the person you met at age 25 changed over a lifetime, and so did you.